I have been thinking about this one for a long time, and it's still not going to come out right. I may write about my thoughts on the topic in segments as I am able to really gather and organize them in a coherent way. Anyway, here goes: Why do we have such a large family? I am asked that question in various forms more often than expected. And I guess the simple answer is this: Why not?
I have always loved kids, for as long as I can remember. In high school I told everyone I wanted to have 32 kids - the plan was to adopt 25 and have 7 on my own. I even kept a notebook full of names that I heard and liked. Sure, it was sort of a joke - mostly my way of saying that I wanted a large family someday. When I met Allen and found that he came from a family of 15 kids, I was amazed and impressed. After we were married and expecting our oldest boy, we were thrilled to discover that Allen's mom was expecting as well! Sometime after she had her last one, I remember thinking: Sixteen kids! When they are all married, she'll be living my dream - there will be 32 of us!
I love my family. I have an incredible husband who is loving, supportive and helpful around the house. My kids are wonderful - of course not perfect all the time - but such a blessing in my life!
OK, before I get on a "Big Family Soapbox", let me finish up this thought with my favorite responses to some of my frequently asked questions.
Are they all yours?
- No, this is not all of them; my oldest is at home with the other 5.
Are you going to have more?
- Check back in nine months and you'll see for yourself!
Don't you know what causes that?
- Water or sex, but I don't want to give up either one.
Are you going to get fixed?
- Well, as you can see by the size of our family, everything is working just fine.
Are you planning to have any more?
- I just figured out what I'm really, really good at, so why stop doing it?
Haven't you heard of birth control?
- Yes, that's great stuff for people with ugly kids.
Do you ever have any time for yourselves?
- Obviously we get a little time to ourselves, or we wouldn't have eight kids.
Haven't you had that baby yet?!
- Yes. This is the NEXT ONE!