Showing posts with label questions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label questions. Show all posts

Saturday, February 19, 2011

You Choose

This whole week (tomorrow's the last day) you can leave me a comment on this post and you're guaranteed an answer! Some answers will be left in the comments, some will be answered as a post. What are you waiting for? Go ask me a question!

photo found here

This post is in response to some questions from 'anonymous':

Are you really so happy all the time? Do you ever have a bum day? Have you had any experiences that made you the way you are?

Well, Anon, your first question is one that I actually get asked a lot. And yes, I am a pretty happy person. You know why? Because I choose to be. Do I have bad days? Of course. Everyone does. In fact, my foot frustrates me to no end right now. It drives me nuts to sit around all day long and to have to depend on others to do a lot of things for me. I can't drive. I can't run my own errands. I can't do a whole number of things right now. I could easily choose to feel sorry for myself (and yes, sometimes I do) but it makes life a whole lot better if I choose instead to be thankful for the things I CAN do rather than focusing on the ones I can't.

Have you ever heard the saying, "I had no shoes and complained until I met a man with no feet"?

I think life is always better than we think if we are willing to look for the blessings.

Here's a kid who is a great example of this...



As for your last question, Have you had any experiences that made you the way you are? my answer is yes. I think everyone is who they are because of the things they have experienced. I could list a whole number of things that have influenced the person that I am today, but the thing that stands out the most to me is that I was bullied as a child. I would never, ever in any circumstance wish these sort of experiences upon anyone. However, they have shaped me into the person that I am. Again, it is a matter of choice. I could continue to see myself as a victim or learn something from the experience and try to make a difference for others who are enduring similar circumstances.

What it all comes down to is this quote that I love from the movie The Iron Giant:

You are who you choose to be.

I choose to be happy.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Boys Or Girls?

This whole week you can leave me a comment on this post and you're guaranteed an answer! Some answers will be left in the comments, some will be answered as a post. What are you waiting for? Go ask me a question!

This post is in response to Rebecca's (totally loaded!) question:

If you had all 10 boys or all 10 girls, instead of some of both gender, which would you choose?


Because the question comes from my pal whose family looks like this:

photo (shamelessly stolen from Rebecca's blog) taken by Summer Murdock

I was feeling a bit of pressure. I finally came up with the perfect answer and, because it's Wednesday, posted it at Four Perspectives.

Come tell me what you think. What would you have said?

Thursday, July 8, 2010

A Day With All-a-Boy


As he left in excitement for his scout activity on Tuesday afternoon, All-a-Boy had the good sense to pop his head back in the door and offer me a quick "Love you, Mom!" before venturing off for a tube ride down the river.

For some reason I was struck by the beautiful shade of brownish-green in his eyes just then.

Later, as he returned home, we sat together in the bathroom washing layers of dirt and grime from his feet so that I could assess a cut on the bottom of his foot, hiding in the fold of his third toe where it meets the pad of his foot. It looked pretty deep but not bad enough to warrant a visit to the emergency room. I tried calling my doctor's after-hours office as well as a few Instacare locations, to no avail. All were closed. I told All-a-Boy that we would have to clean it well and bandage it up until the next morning.

He was full of questions - will it hurt? How does water get the dirt out? Why does my toe hurt more than the actual cut? Why are there so many nerves in the foot? Why do you have to use peroxide? What causes the peroxide to get all fizzy? And on and on.

I love when my kids ask questions and All-a-Boy is never short on them.

The next morning I call the doctor's office and the receptionist informs me that stitches are not an option after 8 hours. "You mean the doctor won't even see him?" I ask. "We just leave this gaping wound bandaged and hope that it eventually heals itself?" She lets me talk to the nurse, who asks some more detailed questions about his injury then determines that he does need to be seen.

As we wait for the doctor All-a-Boy leafs through the magazine options available to help pass the time. Highlights, Ranger Rick, The Children's Friend... all of these were my favorites at his age yet All-a-Boy finds something much more interesting. He chooses to read National Geographic. He is initially fascinated by an article which talks about bone and pottery fragments which are discovered in an archeological site and pieced together with computer replicas. He then reads about the mating rituals of a funny species of Australian birds as well as power grids which control electricity in the U.S. He reads the most interesting parts aloud to me, asking for clarification on things such as 'stimulus money' and 'aesthetics'.

He is much too mature for his eleven years, I think to myself.

The doctor comes in and determines almost immediately that it is worth the attempt for stitches. He leaves All-a-Boy with a tub of water to soak his foot in before the procedure. As we sit there in the room, All-a-Boy comments to me on his observations of the room's decor - from the miniature outhouse just the right size for birds to the cleverness of the cow cut-out which reads, "Love one an udder." (har, har)

One thing I never have to worry about with All-a-Boy is silence. He always has those gears turning in his brain and he has no qualms about sharing his musings with anyone who will listen.

He flips through the magazines again and tries to decide between two issues of TIME. He's not sure which is more interesting - the story of the Times Square bomber or the clean-up efforts in the Gulf oil spill. It is not lost on me that I would easily have chosen the joke page in Highlights magazine over either of these two. He chooses to read about the Bomber and asks another round of questions: Why do people like this hate Americans so much? What would make anyone want to kill people that they don't even know? I do not always have all of the answers he seeks, and I am not afraid to tell him this.

Just before the doctor returns All-a-Boy is amused by a poster on the door which reads, "Should I ask my doctor about bed-wetting?" There's my 11-year-old. Potty humor gets them every time.

We move to another room for the actual stitching procedure and suddenly All-a-Boy can not ask enough questions of the doctor.

AAB: "What are those needles for?"
Doc: "I am going to use these to numb the area where I will be stitching."
AAB: "What's the big syringe for? Is that another shot?"
Doc: "No, this is just water that I'll be using to clean your cut out really well before we try to stitch it closed. I'll even give it to you afterward."
AAB: "Is any of this going to hurt?"
Doc: "Yes, at first. But the numbing medicine will make it so you can't feel anything."
AAB: "Doesn't it sort of freak you that you'll be pushing a needle through human flesh?"
Doc: "Nope. Not at all."

The questions continue with no end in sight. It becomes obvious that All-a-Boy is stalling. The doctor asks his assistant to hold the foot still while he injects the numbing solution into the sore. He continues talking to All-a-Boy, trying to ease his worry. "So, you were tubing with the Boy Scouts? Well, a scout is brave, right? Isn't that part of your scout law?" All-a-Boy is not amused, but I am.

I am amazed by the number of times that All-a-Boy yells out, "OW! Ouch. Okay, THAT HURT! Ow. Ow. OUCH!" Again, my 11-year-old is coming through. Once he is all stitched up and has inquired as to what sort of material the stitching thread is made from, the nurse comes in with 3 more needles.

"Um, WHAT are those for? My foot is already numb and sewed up!" She explains that he needs a tetanus booster shot since the last one he received was in kindergarten and that I have consented to his receiving his 12-year-old immunizations while we are there as well. "Well," he mutters, putting on a brave face and staring straight ahead, "I guess if I could take it as a kindergartner I can take it as a sixth grader. It can't be any worse than the shots I got in my foot today. Go ahead. Stick me."

So, 4 stitches and 3 tweety bird stickers (these were acknowledged with a hearty eye roll) later, we headed for home.

"That actually wasn't so bad," he mused as we drove along. "I mean, anything's worth it for this cool giant syringe."

I'll remember that, All-a-Boy.

Friday, April 16, 2010

It's RAD!

Waaaaaay back when I first discovered blogs one of my favorite bloggers would occasionally hold a Reader Appreciation Day wherein she would answer any and all questions from her readers for a 24-hour period of time just to show how much she appreciated every single comment she received with each post.

It was awesome.

In fact, I can't believe I never thought of borrowing that idea until now.

From now until tomorrow morning at 9:00 am I will gladly answer any questions you would like to ask.

Ready?

Ask away!!

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Minute Mysteries

Have you heard of minute mysteries? My kids go through stages where they love these things. I pretty much always think they're ridiculous because they are so open-ended that anything could be the answer.

Here's an example of a minute-mystery conversation in our house:

Kids: Hey, mom... Bob is a delivery man who is in a hurry. He's coming up on a railroad crossing as the barriers start lowering. He won't make it past before they close, but he doesn't have time to stop. What does he do?

Me: He crashes through the barriers.


Kids: Nope.

Me: How do you know? Were you there?

Kids: That's just not the right answer, mom.


Me: Why not? It makes sense.


Kids: Just keep asking questions and you'll get it.


Me: (exasperated sigh) Does he hit the train?

Kids: No.

Me: See? He crashes through the barriers without hitting the train. I win.

Kids: (rolling eyes) Whatever, mom.


Actually, today I have a few minute mysteries of my own to stump my kids with...

1. As some kids are leaving for school their mother asks them, "Did you make your beds?" "YES!" they all shout in unison, but when the mother goes to check, the beds are unmade. How is this so?

2. A woman puts a load of laundry into the washing machine, carefully checking that all socks have a match before putting them inside. By the time she carries the basket full of clean laundry upstairs, 3 socks are missing. Where are the missing socks?

3. The basement of a family's home has pictures drawn in Sharpie or crayon on every wall. When the parents ask who made these drawings every child responds with, "Not me." There is no one named Not Me living in the house. Who drew on the walls?

4. When a mother asks her kids if they would like a cookie, they all respond immediately. But when she asks if they have finished their homework or if they could help her with the dishes, no one seems to hear her. What is the cause of this phenomenon?

5. While searching for missing car keys beneath her couch cushions, a woman finds a candy bar wrapper, 4 popsicle sticks and some popcorn. No one is allowed to eat in the room where the couch is, so where did these items come from?

I can't wait to hear their answers.

And in case you were still trying to figure it out, Bob was the train driver.

Sunday, August 9, 2009

I Asked For It

Today's Sunday School lesson for my 4 to 5-year-old class was titled "Our Parents Help Us Learn". One of the points was that we were born into families for a reason: so they could help us to learn and grow.

I posed this question to my class:

Why do you think we were born into families instead of just being placed on the earth in the middle of a grassy field somewhere?

And N~'s answer was this:

Because we NEEDed to be PRE-TECTed from LAWNmowers!

Maybe I should re-think the way I pose my questions to 4 and 5-year-olds...

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Something Like That

A conversation with the Princess this morning...

Me: After we drop you off at school we are going to see grandma at work.

P: There's something I don't understand about grandma. It doesn't make sense.

Me: What's that?

P: If she's Deaf, how can she understand what I'm saying all the time?

Me: She can read your lips.

P: Like we read books? She reads lips?

Me: Yup.

P: And she talks with her hands, right? Using sign language?

Me: You got it.

P: Okay, mom. Let me get this straight. Grandma uses her hands to talk and her eyes to read lips. Is that what you told me?

Me: Yup, that's what I said.

P: So, we talk with our mouths and grandma talks with her hands. And we read books but grandma reads lips.

Me: Well, grandma can read books, too.

P: (incredulously) She can?!

Me: Of course she can. Her ears don't work like ours but her brain works just fine.

P: I'm totally confused now, mom. How can grandma read books if she's reading lips?

Me: I don't think she would read them both at the same time.

P: So she doesn't read lips?

Me: No, she does read lips. But reading lips just means she sees the shapes your lips make when they say certain words and she knows what you're saying by watching the way your lips move.

P: So she doesn't read books?

Me: No, she does read books. Reading books means your eyes find the words on the page and put them together to make a story.

P: What are you even talking about now, mom? Because I was talking about grandma and you're talking about stories. And now I want to know stuff like are there pictures in the stories? And how does grandma read lips when she's reading stories? But you just keep talking about stuff that I didn't even ask you about. (exasperated sigh) So just forget it.

Me: Are you sure you don't want me to try to help you understand?

P: I do understand. It's you who doesn't understand and keeps making it all confusing.

Me: So you understand now?

P: Yeah, I understand. Grandma's ears don't work, but her brain is fine. Since your ears work, maybe your brain is not working right.

Me: Yup, you got it.