Friday, May 1, 2009
Make New Friends And Keep The Old
When I told Allen that I was going to have dinner with her, he asked, "Who?"
I told him her name may sound familiar because when I am reminiscing over my high school days I will often mention how Pam always got the parts I auditioned for. The parts I wanted. We were in drama and choir together. We never really hung out but we shared a lot of the same interests.
He remembered. And I went.
I went mostly because I am a grown-up now (okay, I pretend) and I enjoy catching up with people from my past. Also, I am now much more mature (pretending again) and do not harbor any ill feelings towards the teenage girl who could out-perform me.
Our visit was delightful. I learned all about what Pam is doing these days along with what she has been up to since our graduation back in 1990.
We talked about schools, jobs, life events, other friends, how stalking is totally underrated...
And here is what I realized.
There are so many great things we can miss out on in life when we keep our vision of others so narrow. When we base our perceptions of people on a limited amount of information we are depriving ourselves of the chance to broaden our circles of friendship.
Last night I realized that I missed out on something great in high school. I can't go back and change that. I can't undo the feelings I harbored towards someone I never really gave myself the chance to become acquainted with.
I also realized that it is never too late to start over.
Pam, it was so wonderful to "meet" you again.